This article has been circulating on my Facebook feed today about stay at home parents vs. working parents. (moms more specifically)
My first reaction reading it was that I agree that motherhood is hard work….and so is working outside of the home. I’ve been on both sides. I don’t get why people are so judgmental…aren’t we all working hard? What do I do all day….why does it matter? My daughter says that my father-in-law’s job is more important than mine because he’s a doctor and I’m a….well….I haven’t figured that out yet. How dare my six-year-old attempt to polarize our family!
Here’s a basic flow chart on how I assess my own parenting abilities. Feel free to use it at your own risk.
The great part is that this chart allows me a TON of flexibility.
No organic today? Phew….not applicable.
I also try not to take anything personally….because I think there are a few groups of people I might be dealing with:
1. Those who say things just trying to make conversation. (I fall into this group.)
2. Those who say things because they think they have helpful, brilliant insight. (I sometimes fall into this group too.)
3. Those who say things that are encouraging and loving. (I really TRY to fall into this group.)
4.Those who say things to try and make you feel bad about yourself. (Yuck.)
5. Those who shouldn’t be allowed to interact with other humans. (I haven’t met any of these yet, but consider this a catchall.)
So when someone says to me “What?! You didn’t breastfeed?“…..I just smile and assume they are in group 1. It think it makes it easier on both of us. Or maybe it just makes me delusional. I’ll just stick to my flow chart.