A Short Guide to a Happy Marriage

darlene schacht quote via lilblueboo.com


That is a true story for me.   Today Mr. LBB and I celebrated our 12th anniversary: we went to church, we spent the day with Boo at home, we watched a Netflix movie, we made taco salads for dinner. It was a typical day and one where we are most content.  Over our gourmet (McCormick’s Taco Seasoning) dinner, we came up with a short list of what makes our marriage successful:


A short guide to a happy marriage via lilblueboo.com

Anything you would add to that list?


I love this collage…..one photo from every year since 1997….the year we met in college:



  1. Darci says

    Love the pic from 2012. I know it was a very difficult year but I think you look the happiest here. Congrats on 12 years! We have our 10th anniv on wed.

  2. Karen Hayes says

    Happy Anniversary! And Congratulations for showing your daughter what the meaning of wedding vows truly mean! Such a beautiful family!

  3. hs says

    First of all, I would love a pdf if you wouldn’t mind sharing. What a great wedding/anniversary/shower gift that printable would be!

    Second, you need to post more pictures of your hubby. He’s cute. 😉 lol! What an adorable couple you are. Congratulations.

  4. Jen says

    So cute! We just 9 years of marriage May 1st, we met fall of 1997 at the age of 16.

  5. Natosha Zachary says

    Love it! I’m going to share it with my guy. These are very similar to the “rules” we have for our relationship. I love the collage. I think I’m gonna go make one for us right now. 😉

  6. Colleen says

    I would add “Generously give of yourself” at the bottom.
    An attitude of self giving is essential– (It’s actually the basis of everything else on the list) but we all need the reminder to overcome the constant gravitational pull of our self centeredness, especially over a long period of time ! Lol :-)
    Giving creates a fruitful, loving atmosphere (and results)rather than the closed in and shrinking “me first”, where we compete to have the other person meet our needs first! (Hahaha–who hasn’t done at least a little of that! 😉 Been there/done that–and it’s a slow poison if it’s not just a temporary need.
    I LOVE that you have “Be quick to forgive” at the top of the list. SOooo important!
    FWIW–(Would you consider shifting it toward the center a little more? My eye tends to skip over it and read “Always be kind” as the first line.)
    This list should always be in our minds and hearts! It’s the basis of what’s gotten our marriage through 30 years and we’re better for it! :-) Thanks for posting–a pdf would be great to share–we have lots of weddings to go to this summer!

  7. says

    I love this. So many truths. I think “Centered on Christ” need to be with “trust in God.”

    also, my friend (www.nhershoes.com) has been cheering the “choose joy” phrase for a few years now as well. Although her mantra is “Eat Clean. Sweat Often. Choose Joy.” And we are going to make shirts that say “Keep Calm and Choose Joy.” Makes me think of you. :)

  8. says

    happy anniversary. I hope you had a great day. what a special thing a good marriage is. I think so many people want to be right in the marriage when it isn’t about being right or wrong but working together for your family. families are meant to be a team that works together.

    cheers (with some green smoothie! lol) my friend.

  9. says

    What a gorgeous family ! You are such an inspiration Ashley. Thanks for being here everyday to brighten everybody’s day !!! And thank you for your guide. I am not married, not even in a relationship but I see this as a guide to life itself, with everyone I meet. Merci !!!