A year or so ago I got an email from a woman named Erin asking if she could include me in her email updates.  Of course I said yes.  Erin’s 4-year-old daughter was diagnosed with cancer in 2008 and she began sending out emails to keep her family and friends updated. Five years later her daughter is healthy and those email updates still continue.

I look forward to Erin’s emails in my inbox.  We’ve never met in person but I’m thankful for her inspiration and joy.

This is an email I got around last September and I asked her if I could share it at some point when I thought the time was right. Erin said yes.  The time is right:

Hello Friends and Family –

I do not have a J-O-B that mails me a W-2 at tax time.
My occupation is Mom to these 3 crazies.

I do not get a paycheck on the 1st and 15th but,
I did receive a HUGE bonus check this week.
3 different people, at 3 different times, stopped their lives for a moment and gave me and Joe a gift.

The gifts came in different forms – a text message,
a random conversation with a stranger at the soccer field,
a tight hug of gratitude in front of our house:
Stories of Mary’s kindness, Sara’s kindness and Anna’s kindness.

Genuine kindness – when you don’t know that someone is watching. 3 moments in our daughters’ lives that we would not have known happened, unless someone took the time to tell us.
I like that.
I want to do more of that.

My job description is to make sure our daughters are good people. So much is involved with being a “good person.”
Most nights after our girls are asleep,
I replay the moments I could have and should have done differently as their Mom.

This week, I accepted my bonus check with pride.

I work hard.

Not all days are good. Some mornings, I start my day yelling at 1, 2 or all of our girls before I even get out of bed.

Moments of pride like this make not-great-moments like that feel like everything in between was worth the time and effort.

A Good Mom Moment.

If you see or hear a kid do something great…tell their parents.
The world could use more compliments!

-Erin M.

Parenting takes practice. We try and do the best we can, and sometimes we fail, but we can restart again. I want my child to learn that grace, compassion and kindness are richer than fairness. I want her to know that life isn’t going to be easy and I’m not going to shelter her. I look for the small moments where she steps forth in her own humble way. Those are my true bonuses like Erin so eloquently wrote. And when I see that in other people’s children I should let them know…because it feels good to know that you are making small strides and that someone else happened to notice.

It might not seem like it, but you too are making small strides. We all are.  Look for your bonus checks, and share the wealth with others.

Thank you Erin:

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